Love is a matter for two people, but divorce involves two families. Especially in today's society, where the freedom of marriage is emphasized, the traditional concept of monogamous marriage is no longer binding on modern people, and the public cares more about the quality of life as the pace of life accelerates and the concept continues to evolve. At the same time, the mobility of society has accelerated, which also makes people pursuing individuality more diversified in their relationship choices, especially as women's social status has improved and their awareness of rights has awakened, the divorce rate is also rising year by year. This is true for ordinary people and even more so for celebrities.
Divorce may seem simple - two people who once pledged to be together no longer have intercourse, but for some people who have gone through divorce, the process is tragic enough to be engraved in their bones and even affect their subsequent lives, causing deviations and obstacles in their self-perception, and in serious cases, losing their confidence and courage to live. People whose marriages have come to an end are prone to complicate simple issues at vulnerable moments in their lives, leading to tragedy, and the "Festinger effect" of this cascade of bad luck is even more evident in celebrities.
Some people are afraid of family scandals, damage to reputation and private, but even if this low-key and quiet, will be "eaters" digging up gossip to public, so that the parties involved in an embarrassing situation. However, there is always the opposite way to do it, in dealing with these bruising family matters and old love to tear the face of the big fight, from political and business elites to entertainment moguls, the fiasco is a lot of people. For those "top flow" of the divorce case, less of the wood and oil and salt of the word each count, but the focus of their argument is not just the house, car and children, and ordinary people are no different, hundreds of millions of dollars they only care about their share of a few digits, in other words, in their place the marriage can actually be exchanged for how The price is expensive. Therefore, the breakup is always in the limelight, the confrontation between the two sides of the forces will certainly be shocking, everyone knows.
The sweetness of the fairy tale can not withstand the "burden of marriage"
If you look at the entertainment industry, there are many stars who have become involved in love because of the play, but there are many who have turned from being the envy of onlookers and fans to being strangers. The two of them are known for their love for each other and for their relationship with each other. The two of them got together in the Korean drama "Dr. Vampire" and their love affair quickly heated up during the filming process, and they were photographed by paparazzi on a date, and Ahn Jae Hyun even showed his proposal video. They are also making frequent appearances on variety shows, appearing in pairs as a recognized couple. The company has taken advantage of the situation to promote their romance by planning a special show "New Wedding Diary", where every part of the show has a romantic surprise.
However, this envious couple in the third year of marriage will fight a "dog blood" divorce, which their fans and friends and relatives are not expected, shocked, but also can not help but sigh, the car trunk was stuffed with capers and daisies to show love "warm man "The company has been labeled as a "scum" who has no commitment to marriage and is being rejected by netizens. The company's main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the market. " This boisterous divorce tug-of-war thus unfolded, with Hye-sun revealing one amazing insider story after another: on An Jae Hyun's birthday, his wife celebrated her birthday by making soup, while he went out to celebrate with several female friends, with Hye-sun's best friend actor also came forward to reveal An Jae Hyun's ambiguous and intimate interaction with actresses on the set of the shooting. The charges of having an affair with Ahn Jae Hyun are coming out, causing his image to be ruined and calls for him to leave the industry.
The company's main goal is to provide a good solution to the problem of the problem. ...... And then they each issued a statement, An Jae Hyun refuted his wife's malicious smear and said, "At first, I married because of love, and now I want to end my marriage quietly." After a year-long sparring and mediation, the two were able to jump out of their original life circle and return to peace. However, for this reason, the two not only both suffered serious mental stress, acting career also suffered a blow, there is no winner in this divorce battle.
In fact, there was a psychological mismatch between the two siblings at the beginning: the one with a little more experience wanted to protect the relationship, but it backfired, and they fell into despair in the face of an irrevocable marriage. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you want. With the development of modern civilization, the family, which is considered the smallest cell of society, has gone from being indestructible once the two parties are united to falling apart at the slightest disagreement. Larry Bupas, a sociologist working on Japanese issues, introduced the concept of "Marriage Package" in Asian Population Studies, but of course, this problem is not unique to Japan. Traditionally, being married means having children and supporting parents, which is why marriage is compared to a package. For women, marriage changes their old family roles and life paths, and affects them more than men.
The sweet appearances that viewers see in "The Newlywed Diaries" are only the result of the program's production, while the unedited footage reveals all the ways in which they don't get along. For example, their understanding of marriage is very different: Ahn Jae Hyun sees marriage as a pleasure, while Goo Hye Sun thinks that marriage is a necessary step in life. The company's main focus is on the development of a new product, which is a new product.
Most importantly, they did not go through the bonding period with each other and lacked tolerance for each other's shortcomings. In the show "New Marriage Diary", Goo Hye Sun did not shy away from saying that An Jae Hyun disliked her greasy hair, while in the divorce battle, An Jae Hyun also made his wife's unsexy body as a sin. They also have their own preferences about their living environment: the show is set in the suburbs as Goo Hye Sun wanted, but Ahn Jae Hyun scoffed at the boring life there. Both of them are able to express themselves honestly, but neither of them is willing to make concessions for the other, even if one of them has negative feelings, the other one is not able to help to relieve them and has no empathy. Such a failure to support each other's feelings can easily fall apart, after all, the couple in the marriage is not a fairy tale prince and princess.
If divorce is not free, it is meaningless to get married
China's Civil Code, which came into effect on January 1, 2021, added a one-month "divorce cooling-off period" to the divorce process, while similar systems exist in Western countries with relatively high divorce rates. The American marriage system has undergone several changes since the middle of the last century. Initially, divorce could only be granted through the fault of the parties involved, but since the 1970s, the divorce rate in the U.S. has skyrocketed due to no-fault divorce laws, and the introduction of "divorce waiting periods" and "divorce education" has saved many marriages that were about to fall apart, maintaining social stability and preventing impulsive divorce. The introduction of "divorce waiting periods" and "divorce education" has saved many marriages from falling apart, maintaining social stability and avoiding the harm caused by impulsive divorce to minor children. In the British marriage law, two major principles run through: one is the principle of discretion in divorce, which allows time for both spouses to calmly consider and provide counsel to mediate and ease the relationship; the other is the principle of protecting the interests of the weaker party and children, which minimizes the impact of divorce on them. These two principles are also taken into account in the legislation of many countries.
After the millennium, Korea's divorce rate peaked at a record high of third in the world and first in Asia, following the United Kingdom and the United States. Subsequently, the civil law was amended to include a "divorce deliberation period" and the divorce rate improved compared to the previous rate. Divorce guidance sessions are held during the agreed divorce period, where couples are guided by legal experts, psychologists and judges to understand the procedures related to divorce and receive counseling and reconciliation. If there is no room for reconciliation within a "divorce deliberation period" ranging from one to three months, the divorce is finalized. In Korea, the patriarchal household head system, where many women are responsible for most of the household chores and have no financial resources, can change their lives drastically once divorced: they are out of touch with society for a long time, and it is difficult for them to find suitable jobs for a while to change from housewives to working women, which poses a great challenge to their survival and child rearing. In light of this, the government has introduced a matching family mediation program to help families work together to find and resolve the root causes of their disputes and to protect women from suffering and domestic violence. Everyone has the right to choose their lives, and not getting a divorce and settling for cold violence is not actually a way to reconcile.
The "divorce cooling-off period" is seen by those who resent it as a barrier to divorce and a protection for the weaker party. Does this special period really serve as a buffer? A South Korean reality show, "We're Divorced," has provided the answer, triggering a wave of local viewership as soon as the show aired and generating a lot of buzz in a country where 1 in 3 couples get divorced. Some of them have been divorced for years and some of them are thinking about divorce. Is this a selling point for the show's hype, or does it actually provide a reference perspective for the "divorce cooling off period"? All the questions are turned into expectations for the show.
Lee Young-Ha and Sun Yu Yin-Sook were once a well-known celebrity couple in South Korea, but the marriage came to an abrupt end after more than 20 years, and the couple, who were so talented in the TV series, did not expect to escape the calamity of marriage even after all the vicissitudes. The two have been separated for more than 10 years when the program aired, facing the meeting after many years, each other in advance in the image of the temperament to do enough homework, although there was a lot of unhappiness, but no one wants to be in each other's impression of a big discount. The reunion was even more formal than their first date back in the day, arriving early at the date and bringing along his favorite food. As she waited, she was anxious to see if the other person's personality and attitude had changed over the years, all of which was a mystery before they met. It was not until they reunited when Yinsu smiled that the audience could see she was relieved. The duo's reunion evoked many people's "memories" to the point of weeping. Just like the experiment of this show, everyone is a witness of their relationship, from ice breaking to reconciliation, and finally can we see the warm ending of the reunion?
British Crown Prince Charles and his first wife Princess Diana.
In April 2012, diva crooner Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon celebrated their fourth wedding anniversary in Paris. 2014 they announced their divorce.
In 2021, Bill and Melinda Gates announced the end of their 27-year marriage.
In 2019, Jeff Bezos and his wife Mackenzie ended their 25-year marriage. McKenzie received about 4% of the company and has become the richest woman in the world.
In 2007, Jordan and Juanita's marriage officially ended. Jordan paid his ex-wife a total of more than $300 million before and after.
As a world-class diva, Madonna's relationship history is saddening. Now in her 60s, she is still spontaneous and comfortable.
However, reality after all is not like a drama with perfect ups and downs, Lee Young Ha has been changing the subject all the way, which left his ex-wife speechless. The most important thing is that Lee Young Ha left her on their honeymoon and went to a party with his friends. The first thing that happened was that the two of them had to go to a party with their friends, and he asked her to join him. He is used to having a good time, and completely left behind the original intention of unlocking his ex-wife's heart. The reunion arranged by the show is a repeat of her nightmare, rubbing salt into her wounds. It is obvious that forcing the two together will not do anything substantial to bring them back together.
In the marriage relationship, women are often on the weak side. Even if the husband cheated or made an unforgivable mistake, wives will choose to forgive and forgiveness, tolerate the attitude they are accustomed to, but in return is a more cruel injury. Just like Yinshu still has a glimmer of expectation to get back together with her ex-husband, when she was hit by the other party's gaffe when she repeatedly asked, she knew that time simply cannot change a person. Their dilemma is similar to the concept of "The Spiral Of Silence" (The Spiral Of Silence) proposed by German scholar Elisabeth Neumann in "Public Opinion - The Skin Of Our Society", that is, the person concerned When people know in advance that their views are not shared or may even be criticized, they will remain silent. Lee is afraid that his ex-wife will rehash his past and he will not be able to fight, so there is no point in talking about it. They have different perceptions of life, and Lee Young Ha's image in real life is far from Yin Suk's ideal husband image, just like what the show said: divorce is not for happier, but for less misfortune.
Give up or persist? Renegotiate or reduce conflict
Since the "divorce cooling-off period" can't save the marriage, the next stage is to deal with this tricky relationship, a marriage certificate is annulled, the rest is just child custody and property ownership issues, even as a family member of the pet is no exception. The "Butterfly" diva Mariah Carey and her husband Nick Cannon divorced in addition to the custody of a pair of twins, the eight dogs they had together also became the focus of the fight. They enjoyed star treatment, with daily care even including skin care massages, and first class treatment on airplanes.
Celebrity divorces also get a lot of attention because the astronomical assets involved are enough to make the average person's jaw drop, and the media focus is on details such as prenuptial agreements. Crown Prince Charles, Amazon founder and CEO Jeff Bezos, Microsoft founder Bill Gates, media mogul Murdoch, basketball superstar Michael Jordan, former Beatle Paul McCartney, singer Madonna, director Steven Spielberg and Mel Gibson have all lost a lot of money in divorces.
Like many things, the public discriminates against divorce due to lack of awareness or negligence. From the standpoint of men, who have more limited time and energy to devote to their children's education after divorce, it seems safer for them to have their children cared for by their mothers, who believe that women are inherently responsible for their upbringing, and some even take moral abduction for granted. Because of their maternal nature and their children's sense of belonging to the family, most women will fight for child custody as long as they can financially support it, to the point of willingly paying for the rest of their lives in cleaning up the mess of their marriage.
Sarah Davidson, a leading British divorce coach, also suffered a marital breakdown and had doubts about her ability to take on the role of single mother in the early stages of her divorce, admitting in The Psychological Guide to Divorce: "We give birth to and raise our children and want to be there for them every minute, to be their only mother. The end of a relationship can be devastating, we ache for it, and leaving our children in the hands of another woman is an unthinkable thing. We are conditioned to believe that there is nothing in the world that can soothe a child more than a mother's love. So the thought of them not getting a kiss and a hug from us when they need a mother makes us feel a million times more heartbroken." From this quote, one can appreciate the tremendous impact divorce has on the parent-child relationship.
Hollywood stars Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt's divorce shocked the world, the screen "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" in the world of marriage is also quite dramatic, will continue this love affair to the reality. The marriage hit the rocks for a reason, being in the entertainment industry gossip led to a crisis of confidence, and then there are differences in career outlook, Jolie because of the growing age on the will to return to the family, but Pitt has the idea of stationed in Hollywood, so the two common topics are decreasing. There are even rumors that Pitt is in a mid-life crisis and often drinks and smokes marijuana when he is depressed, all of which have a negative impact on his children. The biggest difference between them also lies in the education of their children, they have six children, the older three from the adoption, the next three children are biological. In the process of litigating the divorce, the child custody lawsuit tug-of-war has not yet come to fruition, there are rumors that Jolie is still interested in adopting another child. In the weekday discipline, Pitt for the children more strict, while Jolie always maintain an optimistic and relaxed attitude.
Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, the "Smiths" on the screen, also have a dramatic married life in reality.
Angelina Jolie visits the Louvre with her six children in Paris, France, in January 2018.
British divorce coach Sarah Davidson's book, "The Psychological Guide to Divorce.
The most heated argument occurred when the couple argued on the family's private flight back to Los Angeles in 2016, with rumors that Maddox, then 15, joined in, risking abuse from Pitt to protect his mother, Jolie. The child protection agency also intervened to investigate the matter, although Pitt was cleared of child abuse charges, but the fact that the marriage broke up nailed. The two-year marriage was separated in 2016, and Jolie was granted custody of the six children (Pitt only had visitation rights), and the divorce was official in 2019. It was not until 2021 that the court pronounced that the two had joint custody of their children. In the process, Pitt's repeated fights were met by the judge, while Jolie was disappointed and, although physically and emotionally exhausted, she continues to fight for independent custody.
In countless celebrity divorces, many couples cannot escape the cycle where one partner finds themselves cheated on, where they have a personality disagreement, or where they disagree on something and lose control of their emotions. The psychologically fragile will immediately feel the sky is falling, and their careers will go into the doldrums. The open-minded people do not need guidance, they will clean up their mood and get back on the road.
