Prying into the privacy of others is disgraceful, but fascinating. An ordinary middle-aged couple living in a big city is exhausted by three meals a day and the child's excrement and urine. They accidentally discovered that a newly married couple had moved in in the opposite building. The latter are always intimidating, passionate, and their windows are uncovered. The middle-aged couple involuntarily wanted to take a peek at the opposite window from time to time, and even turned out the binoculars that had not been used for a long time. This is the plot in the best live-action short film "Neighbor's Window" at the 92nd Academy Awards.
After a while, the middle-aged couple found that the husband on the opposite side looked pale and seemed to disappear for a while. After a while, the wife found that the husband opposite had shaved his hair and was bedridden. As night fell, when the lights of Wanjia were lit, the wife saw the death of the husband opposite, and the funeral van stopped downstairs. She came to the opposite building. Unexpectedly, the young woman on the opposite side recognized her and asked if she lived in the opposite building. The young woman and her newly-departed husband often looked at the family of five in the opposite building and felt that there were three children in this family. Very cute. They also wanted children...Speaking of which, the two wives embraced each other speechlessly. "The Neighbor's Window" tells a reverse "siege"-when you are jealous of other people's lives, others are also envious of your life. At that moment, you became me, and I became you.
To be honest, in today's cities, almost no one cares about what is happening in other people's homes. Even a family living under the same roof, most of them "swipe the screen" with their mobile phones. And during the long Spring Festival holiday (2020 Spring Festival) that just passed, mobile phones seemed to suddenly become the windows of other people's homes. Through mobile phones, what we see is not the opposite building, but the tens of thousands of households in another city-sighing, insulting, asking for help online, donating, rushing to help, dancing in illness, banging gongs on the balcony, Those who are on duty in the snow, those who sleep in the garage, those who live live and eat chicken thighs... see all living beings, see the world, and also see themselves.
The British poet John Donne said: “No one is an island and can be self-sufficient. Everyone is a piece of the continent.” Empathy probably belongs not only to humans, but also a common ability of higher mammals. However, "do not do to others what you do not want to do" is undoubtedly the great achievement of the "Axis Age" of mankind. Empathize with one heart, and then there will be the same kind, but it cannot be reversed. Two people looking at each other through the window, only when they come together do they realize that they are of the same kind. Staring cannot replace embracing each other. Some people say that the world is not worthwhile; some people say that it is worthwhile for the world.
If there is no empathy, even if you travel around the world, you will not see people, but only your tools, means, costs and obstacles; if you have empathy, even if all the windows in the world are blocked, You can also see alive people. When you look at others, what you see is yourself. The neighbor's window is one's own window.
My son graduated from high school, and my wife and I happily went to their school to attend the graduation ceremony. One of the ceremonies made me feel extremely lengthy, that is, the principal took a group photo with each graduate. One or two hundred graduates lasted more than an hour.
At dinner, I told my son half-jokingly. I admire the patience and physical strength of their principal. What I don’t understand is, is this necessary?
The son said, this is absolutely necessary. In the past, school leaders only took photos with "good" students, but later found out that it seemed that those who were successful in their careers were not so good at school, so that when entrepreneurs and alumni returned to school to donate money, the school could not find The group photo of school leaders is very embarrassing. So the current principal decided to take a photo with every graduate, because I don't know which student will become the pillar of the country in the future.
This reminds me of two lines in the poem "Xiaosong" by Du Xunhe from the Tang Dynasty: "People didn't know Lingyun wood at that time, and they waited until Lingyun began to be high." Although the school leaders still didn't know Lingyun wood, it did not affect the integration with every Komatsu. film.
My friend brought back a moka pot from Italy, saying that he would make coffee at home every day. I am surprised that she never drinks coffee, and her husband has a serious stomach problem and can't drink it at all.
She smiled and said that my husband spent a few years abroad and liked coffee very much. He drank it every day. Now I can’t drink it anymore for physical reasons, but I know he likes it, so I boil a small pot every day and let him smell it. good. She said that the smell of coffee wafts in the house every day, and there is no need to say anything in such an atmosphere, everyone is very relaxed. Sometimes, it's just fine to communicate with smell.
Another friend is even more exotic. He works in a foreign company and is very busy, but every day he takes his laptop home, cooks with his mother, and spends an hour sitting at a small table in the kitchen doing work. Mother was washing vegetables, choosing vegetables, and making soup. He was busy with his own and didn't have much to say to his mother. But the keyboard sound and the sound of washing dishes do not disturb each other and are very harmonious.
He said that his mother needs it, and he also needs this kind of atmosphere. That's why he bought this small house for his parents on the side of the company. It's just a silent company, sometimes there is no time to eat, but it feels good.
